I read Kemi Adetiba’s tweets on the cyber bullying of single women yesterday and I think every woman in Nigeria should see the sense in what she is saying. I am a married woman and her tweets reiterated these things for me;
1. Marriage is not a measure of success. All it takes to marry is to say yes to a man, any man at all, and you will be a married woman! It is sad that some women actually feel superior for something this easy to achieve.
2. A woman’s marital status is her business not your’s. Stop giving unsolicited advise and opinions. Don’t assume that a woman automatically needs your counsel or your pity for being single. She reserves the right to be single for as long as she wants.
3. How come the first advice we give a single woman is to go and marry? Women should encourage other women to maximise their potentials, dream big and achieve greatness, whether married or single. There must be more to life than marriage!
4. There are so many young single women doing amazing things in their chosen fields in Nigeria today without the help of “a husband”, shame on you if you are a married woman who hasn’t achieved anything in life and you have the mouth to judge these women. If marriage makes you better than them, shouldn’t it show in your achievements too?